What does it mean to be Emotionally Fit?
I am sure there would be many different responses to these questions.
They are certainly the ones that are begging for an answer from you as they have the ability to change much in your world.
Emotionally fit individuals are emotionally healthy and are in control of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They’re able to cope with life’s challenges. They can keep problems in perspective and bounce back from setbacks. They feel confident about themselves and have good relationships.
This description immediately reminds me of what it feels like to be authentic, real, and genuine. There is no surprise that emotionally fit individuals ‘know themselves’ well. They say this is the beginning of all wisdom.
Are you Emotionally Fit?
Here are 7 simple questions to ask yourself to find out if you are emotionally fit:
- Do you live on autopilot or with present moment awareness?
Does life just happen to you? Or do you make life happen? When we live on autopilot, it feels like someone else is driving, not us. Being on autopilot has its benefits for mundane activities, such as driving or grocery shopping. However, behaving with intentionality is vital when you must think through a situation, problem, or dilemma.
- What is your relationship with your emotions?
Are you able to connect with yourself emotionally? Are you able to name what you feel appropriately and understand the needs being met or not being met? How able are you to navigate these emotions to the outcome you seek? You may find this will take an enormous amount of courage and vulnerability.
- How well do you know your patterns?
Are you aware of your patterned responses to know what they offer you? There is a saying “If you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you have always had.” Do you move against, towards, or away from your difficult emotions and challenges? If so, they are growing in complexity. Disrupt your patterns and watch your relationships and situations shift.
- Are you aware of your thoughts?
Do you tend to lean towards the optimistic or the more pessimistic view of life? Do you function through and from cognitive distortions? Are your thoughts grounded in reality? These are pause points that support evaluation and response that hold huge decision-making capabilities.
- Have you accepted all of who you are?
Typically when we have not we are perfecting, pleasing, performing and generally hustling for our worthiness. This leads to unfulfilled lives, drama, conflict, and relationships that have no boundaries. When you know who you are, you will show up confident, courageous, clear, curious, compassionate, connected to self and others, and calm no matter what challenges or disruptions you face.
- How empathic are you?
Are you able to hold space while others are in struggle? Empathy is a listening and emotional skill. It’s about feeling with, not for. When we can hold the discomfort of our own emotions we can hold the discomfort of others people’s emotions without fixing, judging, taking over, or stepping into empathic misses.
- How curious are you?
Are you a knower? If you are, there is little chance that you will be leaning into curiosity. Curiosity is about prioritising your desire to learn and grow over your desire to avoid criticism. Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertainty. There is a love affair between curiosity and wholeheartedness. The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. It reminds us we are alive.
How did you fair? Is it time to go inward and become emotionally fit? You won’t be sorry you did. It will shift the way you live, love, parent, and lead.
This is a blog written by Sharon Deal, the founder of The Who am I Foundation, which helps people take back their power and live in congruence with their true selves. Sharon transforms lives bringing people in alignment with their personal values, ethics, and morals to be their authentic true selves. Learn more about her through her website www.whoamifoundation.co.za or message her through her email email@example.com.
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