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This blog comes from Cape Town, South Africa by Bastiaan Koster, patent attorney and managing partner of the Intellectual Property (IP) Law Firm, Von Seidels.

It was in September that I met Clare Davis. We attended a FICPI-International Federation of IP Attorneys conference in Cannes, France where she was the keynote speaker about mental health in the workplace. There was little time to talk to Clare about this very relevant issue during the conference. I therefore suggested to her that we connect by Zoom after the conference. 

Clare asked if I would write a blog about men’s mental health issues after our Zoom meeting, which is very timely for the month’s topic of her mental health programme. She suggested a title that sounded appropriate. However, when I put pen to paper, I had some reservations.

Indicators of ‘success’

My first concern is what definition a reader of this blog will have of ‘successful men’. 

In my experience, too often a successful man is linked to financial success or getting to the top in business or any endeavor. Money and business success may be indicators of success. But there are other factors which, in my view, are even more relevant.

I was also concerned that the title may sound like another recipe for happiness. I have always been intrigued that despite all the many good books and teachings on happiness, well-being, and mental health, so many successful men are struggling more than ever with mental health issues.

This blog is therefore for men who strive to be good athletes of life. 

These techniques are not meant to be a recipe but hopefully may help to look at success, happiness and mental health from a slightly different angle.

Here are 7 Techniques for Successful Men to Bring Positive Mental Health into their Life:

  1. Become acutely interested in what really excites you in life. If your answer is money or expensive cars go back to the drawing board. You may be missing something much simpler and more profound than money or expensive cars.
  1. Once you have identified what excites you in life, nurture it with great care. It may take time to find and recognise it but if you already found it, take care of it and never let it go.
  1. Make sure that you engage or become aware of nature at least once a day. Engaging with nature does not have to be climbing mountains. It can be as simple as observing the birds singing when you wake up in the morning, a sunset, or the flowers on your table.
  1. Have a friend that you can talk to about the deeper things in life. And encourage your friend to tell you when your overly busy mind, ideas or behaviour that makes no sense.
  1. Become more interested in all the people you engage with and see them as people and not as objects. Not only your close relationships and acquaintances, but it can also be anyone— a customer, a stranger, the barista making you a nice cappuccino, and even the persons in opposition to you.
  1. Make a conscious decision to start shortening the half-life of all irritations and anger that come your way. Anger can last a lifetime or a second. You have control over it.
  2. Become aware of those things you constantly crave, that you don’t have. While aspirations are generally good, it is very debilitating to spend a lifetime in a frame of mind that happiness and success are always just one step away.

Implementing these techniques can sound easy and obvious and the initial reaction may be that you are already doing all of them. But is it really the case?  

If you follow at least some of these techniques, it may result to bringing positive mental health into your life without having to worry too much about attaining it.

Bastiaan Koster is on LinkedIn

If you or any man amongst your team need help in bringing positive mental health into their life, book a free strategy call with Nova’s Clare Davis here she would be so glad to assist you.